Killer Online Dating Tips For Men

When online dating there are things that successful online daters DO, and things that successful online daters DON’T. So this is a helpful guide to provide some online dating tips for men.

The first thing to remember is that it’s not about looks. That’s right, it’s not about how physically attractive you are. While men tend to focus on looks as a measure of how attractive women are, women look to other indicators that show through on your profile, we’ll discuss those later.

Photos should show you at your best.

Your profile photo is the first thing that any woman is going to see, so it’s important to make it a good one. It should be a head and shoulders picture of you preferably smiling. Your other pictures should show variety, but it is essential to make sure they showcase you. It might seem crazy but some profiles on online dating sites have pictures showing, “me with my ex”. Other people (especially men) in your pictures detract focus from you, which is what you profile is all about, so make sure that you are definitely the focus of every photo on your profile. It’s no use having  picture of you skulking in the background, that just won’t cut it.

If you have any ‘interesting’ pictures of yourself, stick them on your profile. They get women, well, interested and act as great conversation starters for email or on a date. ‘Interesting’ could mean a picture of you with a chimpanzee or rock climbing or throwing some pots on a potters wheel or just about anything that people don’t typically get up to.

Make the About You Section Stand Out

Try to be unique and avoid cliché at all costs! Being unique immediately makes you more interesting and desirable. Cliché makes you seem like another run-of-the-mill online dater who can’t be bothered or doesn’t have the ability to make a fun or interesting profile. Your profile needs to reflect what a great guy you are. Consider these two example:

“My name is Steve and I like red wine and funny films.”

“I live for the finer things in life (like a glass of red wine and an Anchorman DVD I mean)”

The second one took 5 seconds for me to think up, is original, has some humor and doesn’t come across like a boring list of qualities.  If you think you might need some profile writing advice check out our advice on writing great online dating profiles.

Write Great Emails

What too many men don’t realize is that sending emails is a numbers game.  Imagine if you’re inbox was flooded with inquiries  from attractive women. It sure would be great to go on dates with them all, but there just isn’t enough time in the day. As a man your criteria for selecting women is different from women’s and probably places a greater focus on looks. When this happens to women, however, they make value judgements in different ways. Looks aren’t as important because they gauge attractiveness by qualities such as confidence, humor and social value amongst other things.

This means a couple of things:

1. By writing fun/confidant/engaging/original emails you greatly increase your chances of getting responses.

2. Even if you write the perfect email, you could still easily get no response.

So this is why playing the numbers game is important. Send engaging emails to plenty of women.

Avoid:

“You look really hot, I think we should meet up” “We have similar interests, we should date” Or “Hey, you look cool, check out my profile!”

Instead try something that is more unique:

“I see that you list chocolate as one of your favorite things. Are you a Dairy Milk or a Galaxy girl?”

Our emails must grab their attention.  Once that has happened, it is up to our written profiles, photo galleries, and follow up emails to seal the deal.

These guys had great success  with their online dating experience. First you need to get online.

Getting Online

Getting-onlineIf you’re new to online dating or you’ve never done it before, this post is for you.

Choosing a Dating site

There are a few things you need to think about when looking into online dating. The most important is what you want to get out of it. What do you really want? And who are you looking to find? These are important questions because the answers can really affect your online dating experience.

If you are looking for a life partner, or a potential marriage then you might consider eharmony, or match.com. Both of whom boast impressive user stats and high quality match-making algorithms.

If you are looking for something a little more casual or social or less serious, then PlentyOfFish or Zoosk might be more up your street.

If you have something more specific  or niche that you are after, such as someone in the military, a nurse or a vegetarian, then there are plenty of niche websites around to help you find someone.
Of course, there are loads of dating websites might need some help choosing one.

Build a successful profile

Once you’ve made a decision, the next thing you need to do is create your profile. Profile and photo (see next tip) are two things that help people determine whether they want to get in touch with you. Try to make your profile fun and positive. Include your interests and try to avoid anything negative (I don’t know why I’m doing this etc.) A useful tip is to look at other people’s profiles for a feel of what a successful profile is. Make it interesting!

Post great recent photos

The first thing you or anybody looks at when searching for people is a photograph. Something generic won’t cut the mustard. Find out which colors / styles work for you (ask a friend or work colleague  if you need some fashion advice). For a display picture, a head and shoulders picture where you are smiling might be a good idea. Additional pictures of you walking the dog,  or action shots that could spark a conversation are also great.

Always be respectful towards others

You’re not the only person on the dating site, the are maybe millions of people like you on there, so treat people as you would want to be treated. Show respect by not being seedy when communicating and not, “dropping off the face of the earth” when you find someone else or move on. A big complaint people have is when the person they are communicating with just “disappears” and stops communicating. It can be very disrespectful not to send a polite message letting other people know that you are moving on.

Go and have fun!

Being successful with online dating doesn’t just mean dates and meeting new people. Try to see it as as opportunity to meet new people and have some experiences as well as finding that special someone. It goes without saying that the more successful the date is, the more enjoyable it will be. So try to be confident when going on dates, as confidence is a very attractive quality.